If you don't share, nobody cares

Tweeted this today, not really thinking too much about it. That's how I express myself often, hiding truth behind a joke. (And no, I wasn't naked all day. But I didn't wear "proper" clothes either. So was the tweet true or not?) But I did get a couple of comments that got me thinking.

Recently, I've been growing to another role - that of the boss. It already creates some interesting communication when your colleagues read your blogs and tweets, and there's some nice tension when you know that your boss subscribes to your RSS streams. That's fine though - it creates a certain peer pressure model which keeps stuff like corporate secrets out of the internet, and may also lead to friendships beyond the corporate life.

However, I think the online life gets really interesting when you have people who report to you. Me, being part of the internet unit of the corporate behemoth these days, I get the ones who even better at living online than me. And, it's the same people you want to be doing things you tell them to, but at the same time they will be privy to parts of your life in which you're not the boss, but just a normal human being with average and not-so-average tastes. So it's kinda scary.

Now, I live on the borderline: I am not young enough to know of no other world than one with sharing online everything you have; but I am not old enough to believe in the necessity of keeping my different lives separate. Gen X, all the way :-).

Risto Linturi writes wonderfully (albeit in Finnish) on the generational differences of the necessity of keeping "roles": The elderly caution the kids that "you can't remove anything from the internet", and "be careful or all the stupid things you do will come back to haunt you later" - but the kids do it anyway, because sharing so much more efficient than the old way. It's an incredibly powerful way to create trust between people, and the young view the "must hide everything lest people figure out that I am not as smart as I try to look like" -attitude of their elders with suspicion. Which is obvious, considering that the mechanisms of trust are different, and as much as the older generations don't understand the young, neither do the young understand the older generations.

The fun thing is that the Internet amplifies this kind of mechanisms. Of how many private photo-sharing sites have you heard of recently? There are zillions of them, but none of them can match the popularity of Flickr, where everything, by default, is public (and the privacy controls are really coarse). The popularity of Flickr feeds the popularity of Flickr - because you can talk about it. You can show your pictures easily. There's a strong incentive towards sharing, and sharing begets sharing. Image searches find Flickr pictures, but they don't find your hidden pictures - so the Flickr pictures get shared even more. Putting stuff online openly is a much faster breeder, so to say, than private image sharing (which obviously has its uses as well - I keep most of the kids pictures hidden simply because it should be his decision to choose whether to share or not, so I'm deferring that decision until he can make it himself).

People, especially those who vote Pirate Party, say "sharing is caring", but I think it's more correct to say that "if you don't share, nobody cares." We live in an information age, and whoever moves information fastest or best, wins the race. In a few measly years, who is going to care about an artist whose works you can't download for free from the internet? You used to hear it for free from the radio; now you use Spotify or Pirate Bay.

I have been on the internet since 1989, and yeah, I've done stuff which can't be erased from the net and I feel now rather ashamed about. But never ever has this come back to haunt me. It may be that I've managed to keep the account on the positive side - that is, I do more of the stuff that makes me appear sane and fit to serve humanity than I do of the insane/oh-my-god -variety. Or it may be just the fact that there is always someone weirder on the internet.

OK, so here's the catch for me: In order to be able to actually function as a leader in an internet company, I simply have to choose the younger generation way, or there would be no credibility. But all (well, most) my superiors over time have been of the older generation, which means that all the role-models I have are inherently faulty. Which in turn means that I feel, on occasion, rather lost.

So here I go again, twaddling along with leaking boots, inventing stuff as I go along... Comfort zone is what happens to other people. *sigh*

Guys, I know you are reading this, so sod off and get back to work ;-)



Comments

I have the same problem - my Facebook friends are also my colleagues, and my team leader is on my list as well. I don't have my blog URL anywhere on my FB profile, so that's "private", but I do post stuff in FB that's on occasion pretty personal.

I think the older generation sees the private and professional life -division as more important, whereas for the generation Xers and those who come after us it's just the same. We're just people after all, including the bosses. I've this gut feeling that there's a shift in attitude, one of accepting that we can't be strictly business everywhere all the time. And it's not a bad thing to acknowledge that as human beings we tend to be playful, insecure, weird, strange and all that.

Uhh, sorry for the incomprehensible wall of text. Shouldn't multitask. Back to work ;)

--Eve, 15-Jun-2009


On the other hand, it also means that the business part slips into our non-business life as well... ...

--JanneJalkanen, 17-Jun-2009


True. As someone somewhere said (I wasn't able to find the link, it's somewhere on my other computer), work is nowadays more a verb than a place you go to. It's a double-edged sword for sure, and can cause more problems than solve. But there are times I wish I just could stay and work from home, instead of dragging my behind into the cubicle halfway across the town - that work would be something I did, and not a place where I spent X amount of hours of my day. But the working world doesn't see it that way, and I doubt it ever will in Finland. After all, this is the promised land of Lutheran work ethics where appearances tend to be more important than what you actually achieve.

I'm stuck in pondering whether or not it is necessary to have the division between the business and non-business lives. I used to have an online and "non-line" separation too, but the difference is smaller and smaller. Maybe transparency could bring something useful to the working life...?

--Eve, 17-Jun-2009


Well, my experience is that it does depend on the workplace culture. I know quite a few people who "telecommute", and only come to the office whenever it's more efficient to have a face-to-face meeting. But you're right in that it's not the majority.

In the office I've tried to be as transparent as possible, for good or for worse. I like to say "any notoriety is good notoriety", and so far it tends to work. But it probably wouldn't work for everyone.

--JanneJalkanen, 18-Jun-2009


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--Mahdi, 13-Jul-2009


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