I find it far more curious that world seems to expect that I have to explain all my behaviour to someone simply because it differs from the mainstream. I like video games, anime, internet manga, comics, books, fantasy, sci-fi, martial arts and lifting weights. If someone has a problem with that, though, but world is a bad place.

I just am not a mainstream person. I don't like soap opears, stuffing my face with McDonalds, cars, or drinking beer until my belly is so big I cannot get through doors. Almost everyone else is like that, and I leave them alone in their hobbies, and expect them to extend same courtesy to me.

--Dragon, 17-Sep-2006

I guess it's much the same thing. But why should you explain?

--JanneJalkanen, 17-Sep-2006

Exactly. That's the problem, so many people feel that it is their business the point out the error of your ways because you like something they don't find exciting, and have a need to tell you to be ashamed. I hate the "holier-than-thou" attitude to begin with, and acting superior when your own obession with some mind-numbing shopping channel or sports team is far greater than mine is epitome of hypocrisy.

I don't explain myself any more, I usually just crack my knuckles. Most get the message.

--Dragon, 17-Sep-2006

That seems like a Finnish thing, but I don't get it at all. In Ireland, it seems it's those who *don't* have any web presence who may feel occasional shame - and I don't get that, either. I think if you feel shame for something you do or don't do, then change it (unless you get your kicks from shame) :o

  • goes to make some funny faces..*

--Stello, 17-Sep-2006

Dragon, what I'm wondering is, how is it possible to make having a web presence mainstream. Only when mainstream folks feel comfortable on the web will the real benefits start accumulating, in my opinion. Until then, it's just us freaks, if you'll forgive me for over-simplifying the matter.

Stello, it's probably not just a finnish thing, I've been told by danish friends, for example, that standing out from the crowd is not rewarded socially. Then again, maybe that's what you're saying: only in Ireland the crowd's online, and those not online are the freaks?

Certainly in South Korea they are. Is it true that they sign into Cyworld with their social security numbers?

--Tuija, 17-Sep-2006

The Aussies have something similar, too. They call it the Tall Poppy Syndrome, and it leads to a lot of false humility.

If you keep comparing yourself to the mainstream, you will always be a freak. Nobody is mainstream, once you look hard enough: say, if you practice African dancing - how many people do that in Finland? Less than a thousand? Out of five million? Would you call that freakish? Maybe. Depends on your viewpoint.

But you cannot please everyone. Look, I've tried. Doesn't work. Trust me on this.

In the end, the only thing that you can do is be true to yourself. Anything else will just make you bitter.

--JanneJalkanen, 17-Sep-2006

I'd say having at least some kind of online presence is pretty mainstream these days - OK, depends on who you compare yourself to ^ :-)

--AnonymousCoward, 19-Sep-2006

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